• Don't rush. Talk to your partner, and ask her what she wants you to do to her.
• Make sure that everything is comfortable and nice for her and you have the right atmosphere
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Give her lots of kisses and cuddles before you even think about making any approach to her sexual area
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When you do start to stroke, rub or kiss her genitals, don't rush into 'attacking' her clitoris. Take things gently, and see what she wants.
• Use her own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris. (If she is over 40, it may be a good idea to use some additional lubrication. See below for suggestions).
• Basic oral sex involves licking the vulva from the vaginal opening to the clitoris. As women become sexually aroused, their outer vaginal lips fill with extra blood, which parts them somewhat, exposing the inner lips and the sensitive tissue between them.
• Kiss her on the way down—her neck, the tops of her breasts, her nipples, her belly, so she gets the idea where you're headed. Move down slowly.
• Kiss her on the way down—her neck, the tops of her breasts, her nipples, her belly, so she gets the idea where you're headed. Move down slowly.
• Approach the clitoris very slowly and gently. Some women enjoy a woman's tongue directly on the clitoris. Others find direct clitoral licking too intense, even uncomfortable. You might want to try one or two fingers as you lick her clitoris for extra arousal.
• Check with her as you lick.
• Be gentle while she's having her orgasm and after. Many women experience unusual clitoral sensitivity and don't like to be touched or licked there. This is normal. If you like “last licks” after she comes, check in about where and when she might like to be licked. If not her clitoris, perhaps her vaginal lips or vaginal opening. Or come up from between her legs and hold her, kiss her, and massage her any way she likes.
