• Masturbation gives women the opportunity to explore their body while at the same time giving them a high degree of sexual freedom. It allows women the opportunity to experience sexual pleasure without relying on a partner and to release sexual tension when "they" choose to.

• There is no wrong way to masturbate. We are all different. Massage your clitoris with hands and fingers or rub the vulva up. You may use vibrators, dildos, pillows, among other things to stimulate the vulva or vagina. Some women employ nipple and/or anal stimulation in addition to clitoral and vaginal stimulation.

• Use your middle finger, moistened, to stroke and rub on and around my clitoris while your other had pulls back the lips, keeping a gentle tension on the clitoral area. Alternate the rapid clitoral rubbing with a slower rub of the vaginal entrance. Open legs wide apart, knees up—not much torso motion until orgasm, when there are strong spasms in torso and pelvis areas.

• If your hand gets tired, give yourself a rest, switch hands, or try a vibrator. If you're on the brink of orgasm, but can't quite get over the hump, try altering you're breathing, or focusing on a really hot fantasy. Give yourself extra stimulation: caress your nipples, or try also thrusting your other fingers or a dildo in and out of your vagina.

• As you begin to orgasm, continue the stimulation through the orgasm. Lighten up on the stimulation during the first extremely sensitive moments but keep it going to enjoy those little pleasurable aftershocks. Your first orgasm may feel like a blip or a blast, but the more you practice, the more variety you will experience.

• There are times in all relationships when your partner is not available for sex when you desire it, even when they sleep beside you. Couples frequently have different levels of sexual desire and expectations regarding physical intimacy. This is why women frequently masturbate secretively in the shower, or masturbate silently in the early morning hours while their sleeping partner lies beside them.

• Masturbating when you have a partner is normal and a woman should not feel ashamed for doing so; most women have probably done it at some point in their relationship. It is often a necessity.

• Keep praticing and enjoy it by yourself or with your partner!